As most of you know, I have two children from a previous interfaith marriage, and while they are being exposed to both Judaism and Christianity, they are basically being raised Christian. They’ve always been included in all Jewish holiday activities, but this year, for the first time, we’ve got a conflict.
My oldest son has a tee-ball game scheduled for the first night of Passover. If he was being raised Jewish, then there wouldn’t be any question as to what to do–we’d go to my Dad’s house for Passover. However, since he isn’t being raised Jewish, I don’t think it is fair for me to force him to miss his game. On the other hand, it isn’t fair for me to automatically exclude him from going to Passover with Julie and me.
I thought that I had this all worked out…that I’d give him a chance to decide, and that regardless of his decision, Julie and I were going to my Dad’s for Passover. But now I am not so sure… What example do I want to set for him? The one where sports are not the most important thing in life, or the one where I am always there supporting him?
For the record, his mom says that it is fine for him to miss the game and go to the Passover seder as planned. Ultimately, this instance isn’t a big deal, but it is the first of what will likely be many similar situations, and so the precedent that is set is important.