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To Circumcise Or Not: That Is The Question

To Circumcise Or Not: That is the Question
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Many couples have questions when it comes to their son’s circumcision (brit milah).

  • Why do Jews circumcise their sons
  • Is it safe?
  • Will my baby suffer?
  • Wouldn’t it be easier on the baby to have the circumcision done in a hospital?
  • What happens at a circumcision?
  • Can my parents participate in the ceremony?
  • What if my parents aren’t Jewish?
  • Where does a brit milah take place?

And the biggest question, for many interfaith couples, is whether or not to have their sons circumcised.

Let this booklet help you and your partner consider the various reasons, answers, approaches, and responses to circumcision. Share the information with your families so that they too may understand what this ritual entails.


18Doors is here to support interfaith couples and families exploring Jewish life. We offer educational content; connections to welcoming organizations, professionals and programs; resources and trainings for organizations, clergy and other program providers; and our Rukin Rabbinic Fellowship provides offerings for couples in cities nationwide. If you have questions, please contact


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