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Bar and Bat Mitzvah

To bar mitzvah or not to bar mitzvah, that is the question. Need some help? Want to learn ways to make your child’s special day inclusive for the whole family? Find out how other families have handled these issues in’s selection of articles, resources and links.


Our booklet, Bar & Bat Mitzvahs For The Interfaith Family, explains the wonderful milestone marking adulthood, the bar mitzvah (for a boy) or bat mitzvah (for a girl), a life cycle event taking place at the age of 13.

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Planning a bar or bat mitzvah can be tricky. Bar/Bat Mitzvah Ideas and Primer for Interfaith Families includes detailed information about what takes place at a bar mitzvah or bat mitzvah as well as information on ways a child’s interfaith family can participate in the celebrations, and possible limitations on participation in some synagogues. Watch this video to see what to expect at a synagogue.

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InterfaithFamily offers classes and workshops for interfaith families starting to think about, or in the early stages of, planning a bar or bat mitzvah. Is Preparing for a Bar or Bat Mitzvah in Your Interfaith Family for you?

From Others

Looking for advice? Wondering how others planned bar or bat mitzvahs that were inclusive of extended family’s different religions? Our discussion boards and article archives have plenty of resources:

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18Doors is here to support interfaith couples and families exploring Jewish life. We offer educational content; connections to welcoming organizations, professionals and programs; resources and trainings for organizations, clergy and other program providers; and our Rukin Rabbinic Fellowship provides offerings for couples in cities nationwide. If you have questions, please contact


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